You have done your due diligence and have decided who is the right surrogate for your family, and now it’s time for the first official meeting. Being nervous and not knowing what to expect is normal. But being prepared remains important.
The following are a few tips worth considering in advance of this important milestone.
Arrive on time
If you are physically meeting with your surrogate, arrive at the chosen location on time. If you are having a video call, be settled on time and ensure your internet connection is strong.
Balance serious and light-hearted questions
While you want to learn more about your surrogate, you don’t want to make the meeting feel like an interrogation. However, you also don’t want to leave the meeting with unanswered questions. Thus, you’ll want to find a balance between serious and light-hearted questions. The questions you ask should allow you to learn about their suitability to be your surrogate and create a personal connection.
It’s recommended to use the first meeting to get acquainted and set communication expectations. This may not be the time to bring up the contract, medical decisions, finances, requirements and so on. You will have numerous meetings to handle sensitive topics.
Invite questions
Allow your surrogate to ask you questions. Don’t be too nervous that you do all the talking. They also want to learn more about you. Thus, create a welcoming environment for them to ask questions and be ready to share your stories.
Show gratitude
Let your surrogate know that you are grateful for how they have agreed to help your family. Acknowledge how demanding the process will be and emphasize how their decision is significant to you.
Intended parents meeting with their surrogate for the first time can be overwhelmed by this emotionally charged experience. The above-discussed tips and discussing any concerns in advance with a surrogacy law attorney can help.